Daily Archives: April 8, 2009

Recurring Dreams


Do you have these? I have several that recur on a regular basis.

One of my recurring dreams is about school. Lately, the main aspect of them has been the fact that I cannot find my classroom, indeed, I do not even have the information I need. Many of these dreams take place on my college campus, in the main building, and in the dream, there are several flights of stairs that only lead to certain portions of the building. So, you can’t go up any old stairs to get up to the room you need to go to. I think that is interesting.

Last night, in my dream, I had finally gotten a copy of my schedule and I was going to be able to have the opportunity to get to the classes and deal with all the work I had not been able to complete due to missing weeks and months of classes.

The funny thing is that I had THREE of my recurring dreams last night and they intertwined. That’s got to mean something!

Lunch with My Teenager

Back when our older kids were gradeschoolers, also known as the time when I knew everything there was to know about parenting, I remember thinking that I had full confidence I wasn’t going to have the typical experience with MY teenagers. We would still talk, my teens would still be willing to be seen in public with me, and our tastes would not be diametrically opposed, a la Jeremy and his parents in the Zits comic.

Whatever my plans were, I do not think my experience is typical. My kids do talk to me, they even listen to me … sometimes.

So today, I invited Valerie to go to lunch with me. For no reason, other than just to spend some time with her. The last time we did this was, like, never. Probably at least two years ago, and maybe much longer.

Greg reminded me of the concept of “carefree timelessness.” This is time you spend with someone just for the heck of it, and it is extremely nourishing to a relationship. I could feel today just how rarely I do this with anyone. So busy doing, I often forget just to be.

I love it when I am reminded of the value of something so simple, yet so easy to overlook.

Who can you practice carefree timelessness with today?