Well, I *was* going to share a skit with you tonight but it refuses to upload. This means it’s not the thing I am to write about tonight.
It’s been a lovely day. Four of our five kids were able to be here this morning. California is a long way away and our son was there this morning. We missed him!
Tonight, my children are on my mind. I got feedback tonight that sometimes they don’t like my approach of asking questions with the intention of allowing them to figure out their own answers. They said that sometimes they just want me to tell them what to do.
Being as they are young and therefore not as interested in ruminating on things as much, I took what they said and thought about it.
Where I think I can be more helpful is to be more generous with “I” statements, because maybe sometimes they have wanted to know what I think.
But I am having a lot of trouble letting go of the idea that it is in the best interests of everyone to let my kids ask and answer their own questions.
One of them was trying to make a decision related to a long drive today and I did my best to ask questions to help him get in touch with his own thoughts and desires. I can know what I think I would do, but I can’t know what to tell them they should do.
Ultimately, their journeys are their own. I wonder if what is missing, if anything, is a willingness for me to continue to say the same things as many times as the conversation comes up.
But I think those same things are not welcomed by the ones who are in the situations they do not like.
It’s just got me questioning my methods tonight! And I spent forever tonight trying to upload that video so it is VERY late. I will sleep on it and see if my subconscious speaks to me at all through my dreams as I sleep.
Merry Christmas all!