Category Archives: #empowering

How to Delegate Your Parenting to a Disney Character

Delegate: entrust (a task or responsibility) to another “person,” typically one who is less senior than oneself.

I’m a big fan of animated films, and have been known to be moved to tears in more than one that I’ve seen. I love the clever dialogue, and the colorful visuals. It must be a lot of fun to work on such a project. One of my favorites in recent years is Big Hero 6.

Big Hero 6 was the first movie we took Kepler to see at the theater and he loved it. I loved the movie, but loved even more watching his whole-body response to the movie. He laughed, he cheered, he stood up and danced. We went to see it a second time!

Baymax has got to be one of my favorite characters ever. He is a “nurse bot,” and has the capacity to diagnose and treat humans. His halting, gentle voice is always soothing. And he is bound and determined to heal whatever it is that is bothering his human patients.

For Kepler’s birthday, we bought him a 19″ plush Baymax. Baymax’s arms swivel, so he can be very demonstrative, with the right puppeteer in charge.

After the puberty workshop I attended last week, I was newly inspired to do everything I can to help Kepler be as independent as possible.

Getting on the bus in the morning has been challenging in the past. He hasn’t wanted to put on his socks, refused his shoes, couldn’t find his mittens, and so on. More than once I had a bucking bronco on my hands. We have made a lot of progress in being more organized and utilizing the most excellent Time Timer to have a smoother morning, but I had been resigned to putting on his shoes and socks, pretty much forever, myself, until last Tuesday morning when I had Baymax tell Kepler it was time to put on his socks.

“Kepler… Please put on … your socks.” I placed Baymax in front of my face and he spoke to Kepler,  and Kepler listened. Kepler put on his own socks.

Eureka! I realized I had a solid gold parenting tip right here. Since then, Kepler has listened to Baymax many times and he has obeyed. Not only that, but he LOVES it when Baymax hands him his socks, gives him a fist bump, waves to him from the dining room window as he leaves on the bus, tells him to hang up his coat, and reminds him to wash his hands.

I believe that Mary Poppins was right when she sang about a spoonful of sugar helping the medicine go down. Baymax is the sweetest spoonful of sugar, and turns all the medicine into empowering fun. Baymax for the win!

Which Disney character might your sweet little one respond happily to?

Managing an Appetite with Aplomb

I daresay pretty much all of us have temptations to overindulge in one thing or another. Food, sex, drugs, alcohol, sleep, exercise, the internet, pickles, fast living, spending. You don’t have to be a [fill in your vice here]aholic to be someone who overindulges.

Me? Food is where those sorts of temptations come up for me most often. I have such great memories associated with food of times spent with my dad, my family of origin, my extended family, my husband, my children, my friends. Food is part of many celebrations and therefore is intimately intertwined with our experience. Some people find it tricky to detach the emotional satisfaction of food from the nutritional value!

Quick. First food you think of when you think of going to the movies. Popcorn? That’s mine. For most of the movies I have attended, a bucket of popcorn was always just part of the experience. Even, in the olden days, WITH the butter-like phude they put on top.

I recently lost some weight and recommitted myself to eating fewer carbs and grains, more fruit and veg, more protein, and overall healthier.

So, I was a little scared to go to the movies. I was not sure I could trust myself to say no to the popcorn even though that was what I wanted to say, because part of me always seems to want to say yes, especially to that yummy caramel corn they have.

Yesterday was the big debut for my new intention to eat healthier, including at the movies.

Jurassic Park 3D, here we come. As we walked from the parking lot to the theater, this happened:

Me: Do you mind if I tell you all the reasons I don’t want popcorn?
Him: There is nothing I can imagine wanting more right now than hearing all the reasons you don’t want popcorn. (possibly not an exact quote)
Me: Blah blah OVERPRICED wah wah wah FEEL BLOATED mumble MESSY sniff sniff SHAME blah blah. And blah.

By the time we entered the theater, I was very sure that I was not going to buy popcorn. Those reasons were way enough motivation to give it a very wide berth.

Who cares? Well, I’m always trying to focus on what I DO want, but remembering all the things that I experience when I eat popcorn at the theater was more focused on what I did NOT want. And it was extremely effective. And empowering. And healthy. And positive.

Pretty sure most of us can do with more empowering, healthy, positive, effective ideas. What are some of the attitudes and actions you find to be empowering, healthy, positive and effective?

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